Category Archives: Health

Baby Mama Drama


I can say with complete honesty that having a baby has been the most humbling experience of my life.

We can all say the things we’d do that would be best for our baby before actually having one. And, we can all criticize those for doing things differently; after all, they must not really love their baby as much as we do because we are the only ones that have our baby’s best interests at heart. And believe me, before Murphy came along, I had plenty of opinions of my own. In fact, I still struggle with passing judgment on someone who has done something differently than the way I think is best.

But guess what: IT AIN’T MY CALL.

I can’t possibly presume to know and understand the circumstances of every individual on the planet, so how could I possibly know what is best for each of them and their children?  I’ve even had private conversations with other women I had previously wanted to judge for a choice they made when it came to their children and was dumbfounded at the secret struggles they had that no one would have ever known about. 

My own child is only four months old, and the level of negative critique (often disguised as well-meant intentions) that I’ve witnessed and seen others experience is alarming.

You wanna find out the sex of your baby? Find out the sex. You wanna make your way through labor by means of self-hypnosis? Knock yourself out! You wanna schedule your C-section? Do it, sister! You wanna push that baby out drug and epidural-free? You go girl! You wanna birth that kid in a blow-up kiddie pool in your living room? By all means! (Just make sure to film the thing, ‘cause we mamas all love watching that sh*t on YouTube.) You wanna formula-feed or can’t breastfeed? Not only will your kid still live, they’ll still thrive. Wanna breastfeed your kid ‘til they’re in college? You do you, girrrrl! Stroller or baby-wearing?  Co-sleep or cry-it-out? Cloth diapers or disposable? Generic baby formula or homemade goat milk formula? Working mom or stay-at-home? Screen time or nah? One kid or 20? Store-bought baby food or homegrown organic? Take your pick.

IT DOESN’T MATTER.

Just love your kids, please. Love the hell outta them and cherish each moment, because, my God, they’re so fleeting!

Let go of all the judgment (on yourself and others), the mom guilt, the bullsh*t. Let it all go and use that energy, instead, on something great like teaching your kid to read, to be kind, to imagine, to think, to love, to have faith in something bigger than themselves. Because THAT?

THAT MATTERS.

Stop asking others how they’re mom-ing in hopes of feeling better about yourself, and stop posting articles on social media reiterating why the choice YOU made is, not only the best, but the ONLY sane choice one could possibly make.

Don’t lie. We’ve all done it.

Stop asking, and just make the choices that are best for your family. Just be informed about it, and know that what’s best in your situation isn’t always the most blatant, black and white answer. There’s so much grey.

SO. MUCH. GREY.

Support other moms out there, and encourage them when possible–or even just when the mood strikes you. Sometimes just a smile in their direction will make their day. And please, only offer your advice when it’s asked for. BE NICE and not just some arrogant, know-it-all, better-than-everyone-else mom.

This message is for me, too. I’m just as guilty as anyone. Maybe even more so. I’m working on it, and I hope this post will encourage others to do the same.

So, if you’re a Judgey McJudgerson out there reading this…..just think about it.

And if you’re a mom reading…..I’m proud of you! I know you love your baby more than life itself, and I know that you’re trying your hardest every. single. day.

Yes, even if you’re not doing things the way you always thought your would or the way others have told you you should. Give yourself a break, for crying out loud! You have, arguably, the hardest job on the planet, and you’re rocking it.

You rock star, you.

😉

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Personal Manifesto

Today is the day.

It’s time for me to get my life together.

I’ve been pussyfooting around for months now when I’ve known, all along, the things that I’m capable of.  I can achieve greatness, so why waste time being so sluggish about it?

I’m going to start eating better.  Today begins my 3-day fast: a fast from wheat, dairy, sugar, and meat to kick-start my body.  After that, it’s moderation from then on out, while still striving to avoid the foods that are poison.

No more laziness with my body.  I will start exercising 4-5 days per week and spend time in prayerful meditation daily.

I will get back on my novel.  It needs me to finish it.  I will finish it.

I will continue to eliminate the unnecessary from my life.  I’ve done extremely well with this endeavor so far.  I will keep up the pace, attacking the areas that are more difficult with a vengeance.  My world needs to represent my life now.  I will not have my home be a museum of my life or let the past’s junk define me.  It’s difficult enough trying to find out who I am and where my place is without having to trudge through the reminders of yesterday, telling me who I used to be.  I don’t owe the past anything.

I will press on toward my goals.

Today begins the rest of it all.

Today is the day for change.

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Wheat-less

I’ve decided, once again, to go wheat-less with my diet.

I’ve done this before and had definite success with it.  There’s so much reading out there lately on the dangers of wheat, and why we should avoid it.  It doesn’t make sense to eat low-fat or fat-free foods, when it’s so plainly clear that fat doesn’t make you fat–the wrong kinds of carbohydrates do.  The choice is obvious to me.

I believe that eating anything containing wheat first thing in the morning will only start my day off on the wrong foot.  My insulin levels will be jacked up, causing my body to burn that sugar for energy instead of its own fat (what I’m trying so desperately to be rid of), and I will crash soon after.  The shakes set in, and I immediately go for some other starchy food for lunch.  Wash, rinse, and repeat for dinner.

It has taken me a week to get over the bulk of the withdrawal symptoms and cravings.  I feel that I’m about 75% over wheat at this point.  That sounds funny to say, but if you cut it out of your diet, you’ll see exactly what I mean by that statement.

Last week–my first week off wheat–I was angry, moody, hungry, shaky on and off, craving every dessert imaginable (and I’m not even a big sweets person), and just down-right miserable.  I had cut wheat out of my diet previously, so I knew what to expect.  Oh, how I wish I had stayed in that habit a few months ago to avoid the withdrawals all over again.

Instead of eating muffins or waffles for breakfast, I’ve switched to eggs, fruit, and almonds.

My lunch usually consists of a spinach salad with olive oil and red wine vinegar, carrots and bell pepper slices with hummus, some warmed tomato juice with a dash of salt and pepper (eaten like a soup), a few more almonds, and maybe a small piece of fruit–as opposed to a sandwich I would have typically eaten before.

For dinner I’m downing a couple of different types of veggies with a lean piece of grilled or baked protein.  In the past, I had nights where all I would have was an entire box of Velveeta mac ‘n’ cheese.  (Don’t judge me.  We’ve all been there.)

And water.  Lots and lots of water.

Sodas have never been a huge issue for me.  I don’t drink a lot of sugary drinks (and never artificially sweetened ones), except for the occasional cup of coffee with cream and sugar, which I’ve cut out also.  Today is my first day trying Bulletproof Coffee, with grass-fed butter, and I’m interested to see how it will affect my life.

I’m getting to the point where I’m full sooner, I eat smaller portions, the shakes are virtually nonexistent, my headaches and joint aches rarely show up (a common symptom of wheat in one’s diet), and I’m in a much better mood.  🙂

The thing is, even though pasta is my favorite food of all time, after getting through the withdrawal stages, I don’t even really miss it.  It’s funny how that works.  I guess I’m just so in love with the way I feel, I don’t want to eat the things that I know will mess me up.

Not to mention I lost over 5 pounds the first week of this lifestyle change.  Definitely a bonus.

I love not counting calories–I’ve done it before, and it sucks.  I eat until I’m full; I just only eat the foods that I know are beneficial to my life and progress.  

I’ve changed from saying, I can’t eat that, to, don’t eat that–which takes me from feeling deprived to grateful for the healthy things I’m putting into my body.  Like I stated previously, I was doing this before and got out of the habit, but this time will be different.  I want to stick with it!

Please understand that I will occasionally have a pasta dish, chocolate chip cookie, or Circus Boy (my current favorite brew).  It’s not like I’m completely cutting these things out of my life from here ’til kingdom come.  They are just no longer a part of my daily routine.  If I can stick to this lifestyle 90-95% of the time, I think I’m going to be just fine.

So….I raise my cup of Bulletproof Coffee to progress and the many weeks and months to come.  Cheers!

Have any of you cut wheat from your diet and noticed drastic changes in your life?

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Health Kick

I’ve decided.

I need less junk in my life, and–unfortunately–for me, food falls in this category.  I’m tired of the way I’ve been feeling these days, and I’m going to jump back on the health wagon.

I was doing so well for months–having completed the INSANITY workout twice through, AND sticking with their meal plan.  But then I got sick the day after I finished cycle 2 and couldn’t shake it.  I felt like I’d never get over that crud!  So, needless to say, exercising as intensely as INSANITY requires you exercise was the last thing on my agenda.

And just like that, my good habits I had built over those 4 months, just went out the window.

Here I am now, 6 months later, ready to get serious again.  I won’t be doing INSANITY, at least not following it exclusively.  I may incorporate some of what I learned from the program into my routine, but for the most part I just want to start small in the exercise department.  I will reevaluate after a month, and go from there.  INSANITY is intense, and right now, my main focus needs to be on my diet.  It’s not so good these days.  😦

So….

starting Monday, June 17th, I will be back on the wagon.  This will give me a few days to prepare, buy better groceries, start weening myself off of the eating-out-so-much thing I’ve been doing, and just get my mind right.

Here’s my plan:

1) I will start a journal–like I did while doing INSANITY–where I will record everything I eat (but not count calories….gross), my exercise each day (or lack thereof), changes I’m noticing, my weight, and my measurements.

2) I’m going to try to eat mostly plants with a few lean meats and nuts.  I’ll be trying to eat as Paleo as possible.  I know from experience that this way of eating is easy for me to stick with and gets me the results I want.

3) I will drink lots of water–probably only water, actually–and will avoid caffeine at all costs.  Caffeine just gives me the shakes and wicked headaches.

4) I will strive to maintain an earlier bedtime, as I am aware that more sleep equals a healthier me.

As far as eating out and alcoholic beverages are concerned, these are my rules:

1) I am allowed to eat out 1 lunch and 1 dinner per week, but they must be healthy meals that follow my diet plan.

2) I will allow myself one cheat meal per month.  And, I mean, one where I can really go over the top and have all the pasta, beer, or dessert I want.

3) I will limit my alcoholic beverage consumption to no more than 7 per month, and they must be drinks with a lower caloric count–unless they are consumed during my cheat meal.

This is my plan of action for now.  I may make a couple of adjustments after the plan’s been underway for a few weeks, but I think this is a great start.

I’m writing about it on my blog, because it’s a way I can hold myself accountable.  Once I tell people I’m going to do something, it kills me to not be able to follow through.

Thanks for reading, and I’ll keep you all updated on my progress.

Do you have any tips to help someone stick to their healthy eating and exercise plan?

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